At the Love By Design Couples Conference 2025, Bishop Elvis Kessey, Provincial Bishop of Victory Bible Church (Ashanti Region), delivered a message that resonated deeply with many couples. His counsel was practical, honest, and grounded in everyday marital realities. Rather than focusing on theory, he spoke about habits—often small and unnoticed—that can either strengthen or slowly damage a marriage.
Here are the key lessons couples took away from his session.
1. Presence Matters More Than Proximity
One of Bishop Kessey’s strongest points was the danger of constant distractions in marriage. He reminded couples that being in the same house does not automatically mean being emotionally present.
Phones, work, and even children can unintentionally replace quality time between spouses. He cautioned couples not to allow their children to take the emotional position meant for their partner, and not to substitute real conversations with endless screen time.
According to him, love grows when couples intentionally create moments to talk, listen, and connect—without distractions.
2. Don’t Suppress Your Feelings to Avoid Conflict
According to Bishop Kessey, avoiding difficult conversations does not build peace in marriage. Suppressed emotions eventually surface, often in unhealthy ways.
He encouraged couples to express their feelings respectfully and honestly. “Marriage is not about who wins the argument,” he explained, “but about who wins the love.” Healthy dialogue, even during disagreements, strengthens understanding and trust.
3. Never Take Your Spouse for Granted
Another major takeaway was the importance of consistent respect and appreciation. Bishop Kessey warned that familiarity often breeds carelessness in marriage.
Couples were reminded to express respect openly, speak well of their spouse, and avoid behaviours that make their partner feel undervalued or invisible. Appreciation, he explained, should not fade simply because time has passed.
4. Defend and Protect Your Spouse
One of his strongest points was the need for loyalty in marriage. Bishop Kessey advised couples never to allow family members, friends, or outsiders to disrespect their spouse.
Standing by your partner sends a clear message of unity and commitment. According to him, protecting your spouse’s dignity is part of protecting the marriage itself.
Bishop Elvis Kessey’s message was a timely reminder that strong marriages are built through daily choices—presence instead of distraction, honesty instead of silence, and respect instead of familiarity.
Because love that lasts is not accidental.
It is built—by design.