Marriage, according to Prophet David Kankam Bediator, Area Head of the Church of Pentecost in Obuasi, is not sustained by love alone but by understanding. Speaking at the Love by Design Couples Conference, he shared practical insights into what many women truly desire from their husbands—needs that are often overlooked, misunderstood, or taken for granted.
His message was clear: when men intentionally meet these needs, peace, intimacy, and friendship naturally flourish in marriage.
1. Women Want to Feel Thought of, Not Just Provided For
Prophet Bediator explained that women love gifts, not necessarily expensive ones, but thoughtful gestures that communicate care. A small gift, he noted, tells a woman, “I was on your mind.” It reassures her that she is valued beyond routine responsibilities.
2. Public Honour Matters
One strong point he emphasized was the need for men to openly acknowledge and respect their wives in public. Women want to feel secure and honoured, not hidden or ignored. According to Prophet Bediator, showing pride in one’s wife publicly strengthens her confidence and deepens trust at home.
3. Women Want to Be Heard
Listening, he said, is not optional in marriage. Prophet Bediator urged men to listen to their wives, especially when issues involving children arise. Ignoring a wife’s side of the story can make her feel dismissed. True leadership, he explained, includes listening before concluding.
4. Appreciation Keeps Love Alive
Many women, Prophet Bediator noted, long to be appreciated. Simple words like “thank you” go a long way. Appreciation affirms effort and sacrifices that often go unnoticed, especially in the home.
5. Women Want Their Opinions Valued
According to him, women feel respected when their husbands take their advice seriously. Even when a man makes the final decision, acknowledging his wife’s input strengthens partnership and unity.
6. Emotional and Physical Affection Matter
Prophet Bediator openly addressed intimacy, stressing that women value foreplay and affection, not just the act itself. He explained that intimacy begins long before the bedroom—through communication, tenderness, and emotional connection.
7. Words Heal More Than Silence
He reminded men of the power of simple phrases like “I am sorry”. Many conflicts escalate not because of the issue itself but because pride blocks apologies. For women, hearing sincere apologies restores emotional safety and closeness.
8. Attention Builds Security
Women, he said, desire their husbands’ attention. Prophet Bediator encouraged men to chat more with their wives than outsiders, warning that emotional neglect often opens doors for misunderstanding and distance in marriage.
9. Thoughtfulness in the Little Details
Knowing a wife’s size, favourite colours, and preferences, he explained, shows attentiveness. These small details make women feel known and cherished.
10. Quality Time Is Not Optional
Finally, Prophet Bediator urged men to take their wives out. Stepping away from daily routines to spend time together refreshes the relationship and rekindles friendship.
Closing Thoughts
According to Prophet David Kankam Bediator, women do not ask for perfection from their husbands—what they desire is presence, appreciation, respect, and intentional love. When men understand these needs and respond consistently, marriage becomes a place of joy, safety, and lasting companionship.
As he reminded couples at the Love by Design conference, marriage may have its disagreements, but understanding what your spouse truly wants makes all the difference.